" The Independent Woman"

For those of you who don't know, in addition to being a full-time paralegal , I'm also a part-time real estate agent. So yesterday I received a call from a prospective client in regards to a very affordable 2-bedroom that is no longer available, but I let the client know that while that one was gone, I had a few more that were quite nice, but a bit more expensive. She told me what her income was and that the apartment was for her and her 3 sons. I asked her if there was anyone elses's income for me to consider ( I was really hoping there was) and she told me "No , I wish there was, but it's just me".

Hearing that broke my heart, because no woman should have to lay down and make not one, not two, but three children with a man to only end up raising them by herself.This woman was undoubtedly strong (she's also a correction officer) and independent, but something seemed to be missing from the picture. A man to raise those young men perhaps?

In the day and age where women CAN do it all by ourselves, Do we really want to?

Speak on it...

How Old Fashioned Are You?

How much work do you require men to do?

Hold doors open for you?

Pull out chairs for you?

Unfold your napkin and place it in your lap? Lol

The basic necessities are usually as far as I go. Hold open all doors! Men make me sick with the notion that because we're independent women we don't want to be treated like a lady. For me it's as simple as this: If you want me to respect you and treat you like a man you betta be doing the things that you need to do i.e hold open the doors...PICK ME UP (Ain't no one trading places with you;we'll get to that tomorrow) and pay for the date, that includes the dinner AND the movie. I absolutely won't pay for anything unless you're my man. Sorry.That's what it is. Ladies if you with me on this let me know...if you're not tell me why.

What Would You Do?

Would you forgive a man that beat you like this if you loved him and he was rich? Keep it funky ladies.....I know I wouldn't, but I want to hear your perspectives on the matter.Speak on it...

First Blog Post! Welcome!

Prompted by recent events in my personal life (a severe tragedy of a relationship that is now more than final) as well as the Rihanna and Chris Brown domestic violence drama, I have decided that it is a wonderful time for me to take a break from men.

As a young woman who is trying her best to establish herself in life, I've felt for a pretty long time that if sent the right man I would be ready to walk down the aisle. Having started dating since I was 15, and currently being 22, I've seen and heard it all. At this point I'm utterly disgusted. From liars, mama's boys,incestious families, baby mama drama,living with your mama, no ambition having men..... I'm worn out...can't take it anymore.

I refuse to settle for crap just to have someone hold me and tell me I'm pretty every now and then. So instead I'm taking a step of faith and falling back.In the meantime I plan to assess the damage of these relationships and really digest my main issues with men. In the process I'd like to hear from you.

As women sometimes we don't have all the answers, but just need to vent. This is your outlet. We can discuss each other's gripes with men and attempt to get to the bottom of their nonsense.So....I'm here and I'm listening..send me your "situation" and questions and we will give you all the feedback you need.