Thursday, December 31, 2009


A look back on the decade leads me to thoughts of achievement, fulfillment and appreciation of my own self-growth..

In the past decade I've graduated from J.H.S, High School, and College and am currently on the verge of applying to law school. Nervewrecking, yes, but also exciting.

At the end of the day,I embrace all the twists and turns that life has brought me and all the ones that may come in the future because they've made me wiser, stronger and better.

Currently I'm loving life and all the ups and downs...joys and pain.A good friend of mine had a facebook status a while ago of that Lil' Wayne line "Life is such a f*cking roller coaster than it drops" Well, I've realized that truth and it's made life easier for me. I'm going along for the ride.

In 2010 10 things I hope to do: (in this specific order)

1) Continue to grow,mature and become a better person
2) Get into and begin my first year successfully in law school (I'm hoping for Brooklyn Law School, but it's a stretch, so honestly I'll go wherever God wants me to be. Plus, I could always transfer.
3)Continue to cultivate all my other interests including real estate, fashion, cooking/baking.
4) Have a happy, healthy, loving relationship with a wonderful man
5) Get fit
6) Grow APL or longer hair
7) Take a major vacation...somewhere tropical
8))Do some charity work
9)Make some progress on my book
10)Give more of myself to God

In the next decade I'd like to be:

A civil rights attorney

A wife

A mother

An aunt

A Godmother

A Businessowner

And a Homeowner



Tuesday, December 29, 2009

This Depresses Me, but I thought it was necessary to post..

Wednesday, December 23, 2009 brand new addiction...

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Should You Wait until "he" comes to prepare yourself for marriage?

While reading another of my new favs, the blogger posed the question should you wait for a boyfriend/husband before you decorate your place exactly how you want it? Alot of women do. They don't get into Suzy Homemaker mode until they're "ready". My first apartment was a dump. Nothing matched, everything was cheap. Then two years later, at 23, I found myself wanting to live nicer, and partially it was because I wanted to have "company". I wanted someone there with me and for us both to be comfortable in the space. There's an old Juanita Bynum taping called NO MORE SHEETS, where she's talking about wanting to get married.She goes on and on about how women want to get married, but aren't prepared. "How you wanna get married and your nails too long to make a biscuit?. When I decided I wanted to get married, I went to the supermarket and put stacks and stacks of laundry detergent in the basement. How he gon be in the shower and he ask you for some soap and you tell him we ain't got none? PREPARE YOURSELF!" I've been listening to that for years, and one day it clicked. It may not be the best plan, but you don't always have a brand new pretty dress until you have a party to go to either do you?

P.S I also find it ironic how much I love to bake now and make three course meals on a Wednesday. Strange, but true.

Be blessed.If I don't post agin before Christmas , Have A Happy and Healthy Holiday!

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Jersey Shore

My new guiltiest pleasure......makes me feel better about my life...

Waiting to Exhale vs. He's Just Not That Into You

On this extremely snowy Sunday in New York, I just watched for the second time He's Just Not That Into You...and had an instant lightbulb moment. He's Just Not That Into You is the white equivalent of Waiting To Exhale. The movie primarily focuses on the ins and outs of relationships , but more specifically to why men are such jerks...all different kinds of jerks, but jerks nonetheless. They explore why men don't call, why they say things they don't 100% mean, why they won't marry the women they claim to love and also why they cheat. To be fair, this movie actually does give men a bit more respect in the sense that they share their point of views and also show their difficulty finding love as well, but for the most part it's a chick flick, much like Waiting To Exhale.

The major moment where I made the connection was where in He's Just Not That Into You, Jennifer Connelly's character was told by her husband that he had cheated on her and even after she was willing to forgive him, he lied to her and never came home. Needless to say she proceeded to spaz out, grabbing clothes from the hangers, much like Angela Bassett did when her husband told her that she was leaving her for a white woman(ironic isn't it)and breaking a mirror that she cleaned up only 45 seconds

While,the distinctions are significant, the rage is the same. Just another example of how color isn't important, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

Thursday, December 17, 2009

If Loving You Is Wrong, I Might Try and Kill You With A Golf Club....

Courtesy of Ms.Jainee Monique by way of The Black Snob...

The sweetest woman in the world, can be the meanest woman in the world ... if you make her that way.

One of the most annoying myths that men (of all races) often make about women (of different races) is that somehow, all brown women -- especially the black ones -- are mean or crazy or might throw hot grits on you or scream "GIT YO SH**" at the top of our lungs while we set all your belongings on fire in the driveway. That somehow white women (and often Asian women are lumped in here too) are just these nice, passive, docile creatures who would never, ever say a harsh word or curse you out or lift a finger in anger.

As the saying goes, "Hell hath no fury like a WOMAN scorned." It doesn't specify just us black harridans.

Which brings us to the case of one super star golfer Tiger Woods and his wife Elin and the golf club she used to either:

A) free him after a car accident that oddly took place at the end of their driveway

B) tried to beat the living daylights out of him using an instrument of delicious irony

I can't pretend to know all the facts. None of us can. None of us were there. I just know if it's almost 3 a.m. and you're trying to leave your house and your wife of six years -- mother of your two children -- has a golf club in her hand and she's a-swinging this is not because she's decided to get in some early morning practice. It looks like someone is channeling their inner Brenda Richie, but with deadly intent. And golf clubs.

The moral of this story is, all women are capable of just about anything if you push them far enough. Regardless of race or socio-economic background. A white woman is just as likely to mow you down with her car repeatedly as a Latina woman is likely to take a knife to your ding-a-ling as a black woman is likely to set your house on fire. I'd advice, menfolk, if you'd like to keep your things from getting broken (or from having your things used to break you), perhaps you should keep your special parts to yourself and not go dilly-dallying with every overly friendly tart you meet.

Just some advice. Or ... I don't know. Don't ever wife n' kid up some woman, make her feel all special and expect her to be OK with you running around. Stay single. You can still have kids. Ask Puffy. Or Diddy or Sean Combs...whatever he's calling himself these days...

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Quote of the Day

There is nothing wrong with being submissive to the man who is worthy.Treat that man like the King he is.
- Amanda Gayle